Finding a Birth Mother

The more people that know that you’re looking to adopt, the greater the chance you’ll have to find a birth mother. The Adoption Help Firm has a nation-wide network of adoption professionals who work with expectant mothers and who refer to our firm.

Let your family and friends know you’re looking to adopt

The most important thing to keep in mind is that the more people that know you are looking to adopt and the more “lists” you can get on, the better your chances.

We actively encourage you to work with as many reputable places as possible. We are happy for you no matter how you find a baby!

You will need to decide if you want to work with an adoption attorney, an agency, or a facilitator (advertiser). Many adoption entities have various application fees. Make sure you ask them what their policy is regarding working with more than one adoption professional.

You have to be careful and read the fine print to see what their rules are if you should find a baby on your own or through another source. Many adoption entities will not refund the money you have already paid.

Another way to spread the word is to tell your physician, banker, attorney, hair stylist, work associates, church, school counselor, school nurse, hospital social worker, or any person that has contact with the public.

The reason it is so important to tell your family is that your nieces and nephews, for example, might have a friend or classmate who is pregnant. Your family members also have different contacts than you do and they will likely be good resources in your search for a baby.

If you do happen to find a birth mother on your own it is important to get your adoption attorney involved so that boundaries can be formed. It will be important for your adoption attorney to line up another attorney to represent the birth parents.

At some point before the birth mother gives birth she will also need to receive counseling. Having the proper professionals involved acts as a check and balance, for example, if the birthparents are not showing up for their counseling appointments, this will serve as a red flag that something needs attention.

If you would like help trying to find a birth mother, please contact our office at 605-339-3939.